'She broke up with me after I slapped her thrice'
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I was in a relationship for two years, which ended a month ago because of my bad behaviour. I got very angry and slapped her. She decided to end it because this was the third time I had slapped her. She was right, and I was wrong, but I apologised the next day because I recognised this fault. I kept apologising, but she said her decision was final. I promised her that this would never happen again, but she began ignoring my messages. A few days ago, she texted to ask how I was doing. I told her I felt guilty and was cursing myself for my behaviour. She responded saying she would be my friend and nothing else. I respect her decision and we chat often now. I really love her and want her to be my life partner, but I don't know what to do. I will change. What can I do to get her back?
— Sagar U
Your ex-girlfriend has made the right decision. There is no excuse for assaulting a woman. Forgiving you is her prerogative entirely.
My girlfriend doesn't take my advice about anything, which doesn't make sense because I have only her best interests at heart. I don't know why this bothers me as much as it does, but it makes me feel as if she doesn't value me enough. Am I overreacting?
The legendary comic Eddie Murphy supposedly said, "The advice I would give to someone is to not take anyone's advice." Your girlfriend probably takes him very seriously. I think you're overreacting a little. Ask yourself if you take the advice of everyone who offers it, irrespective of whether they have your best interests at heart or not. This has nothing to do with your girlfriend valuing you or not. The fact that she chooses to be with you ought to be enough proof of that. If this still bothers you, give her a chance to explain why she doesn't listen. You may learn something too.
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