I've dated many girls but haven't found the one

By  Dr. Love | Posted  04-Mar-2017

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I have been in relationships with many women, but haven't found what I'm looking for, which is love, honesty and loyalty. I have made a lot of mistakes in life. Nowadays though, if you are well off, have a good job and make good money, you get the girl. Why have girls become so narrow minded? Is there a way I can find someone who is not interested in my money or career? Just a simple, humble, respectful person who cares about love and trust and feelings? I have tried many dating sites and apps, but none have worked. I recently met a woman who was introduced by a common friend. We hit it off instantly. She is smart, funny, sexy, and we have a lot in common. We share likes and dislikes. It's almost as if we are soul mates and yet, we prefer to be close friends instead of dating or being friends with benefits. She has a female friend who is trying to separate us. Should I continue being friends or take it to the next level?
— Raghubir K

The fact that you have found someone special, despite your opening litany of complaints against the stronger sex, proves that you can't paint everyone with the same brush. Your admittedly colourful past can easily lead to a lot of women assuming that all men are like you -- incapable of commitment, unable to love beyond a point, or simply difficult to please. I suggest you get off your high horse and recognise the fact that not everyone is the same. As for your new friend, if you feel so strongly about her, you certainly should let her know how you feel. Having said that, it's also her prerogative to change the current status of this relationship, depending on what she's comfortable with. If she likes just being friends, you should just consider yourself lucky to have found her, and accept her in your life according to her terms.