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I am a 41-year-old man in a relationship with a 27-year-old woman since September. We are both cool with each other, but I have a problem trusting her. Whenever we have sex, she writes it down using a note application on her phone. A few days ago, I noticed that she had written a note about sleeping with her best friend. When I confronted her, she said she knew I had her phone password, and had written that down just to see my reaction. I didn't believe her. Another thing she does is take pictures of herself and send them to different men. When I ask about it, she says it's nothing because they are just friends, but I find it disrespectful. A man calls her every morning at 5 am and she says it's just a friendly wake-up call to make sure she gets to work on time. There are a number of other issues I have with her. I love her and she is a good person, but I feel she can't do without her male friends. She doesn't introduce me to any of them either. She also dresses to attract attention. She has a plus size figure and wears skimpy dresses or very tight dresses. I'm confused. I don't know if it's best to let go now than to get hurt later.
— Saydor S
Your long list of grievances has taken up pretty much all the space allocated to the column. You have a lot of complaints and some of them simply make no sense. A lady is entitled to have as many friends as she likes, and wear anything she likes, because that's her prerogative. I honestly don't see this getting any easier for you to handle until you can let go of your prejudices and trust her unconditionally. Without that, this relationship is doomed to fail. I have to admit that her habit of making notes whenever you have sex is just strange though.
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